If a family member, partner or a good friend wants to assist any addict, he can follow a number of tips that will really help him avoiding useless efforts. Here are some of them.
First : do not try to convince an addict to abandon alcohol or drugs. Much less when he is intoxicated. This suggestion is not intended to confuse the family, no way. Its purpose is to understand that the desire to continue consuming by an addict, will be stronger (always or almost always) than scolding, tears, or pleas of any of his loved ones who unsuccessfully tries to convince him to leave this astray.
Generally, the addict comes to glimpse their poison hurt some of their loved ones and as he is being asked more to not consume, he will rebel and continue consuming to prove that he knows his stuff and that he is able stop consuming whenever he wants and not when he is told. If possible, refuse him entry to the house while intoxicated and forbid him to have or consume drugs within the home.
Second : do not tell lies. It is better to face facts honestly. Yeah talk that you are aware of the consumption of drugs and alcohol, about negative consequences, and that there are some solutions, some of which you are already informed of.
Third : do not call him addict or person without willpower or weak. Do tell him that he has a disease that can be addressed in time. Most of the addicts feel guilt and shame of the bad judgment acts they committed if they are intoxicated, and if you insist on telling them what they are suffering is a disease, they will feel less uncomfortable and probably seek help.
Fourth : do not overprotect him. Let him face and fix the negative consequences of his actions. If you solve all the intricacies in which he is usually involved, he will never seek the help he needs.
Fifth : do not threaten him with something that you will not do or that you will do only momentarily. If you punish him, think well before speaking about the punishment so that it gives results. Many addicts continue to consume and create problems inside the house because they know that their loved ones are not going to carry out their threats or will only do so for a short period of time.
Do set limits to his destructive ability and make him respect the home, your property, your rules and traditions.
Sixth : be careful not to discuss any important issues when he is intoxicated. The feelings of guilt bring their drive to try to fix or manipulate everything in their favor and avoid the consequences of their acts of bad judgment. Do try to talk when you notice that he is no longer under the influence of alcohol or drugs and preferably mention what happened during his intoxication, pointing out that he needs help and encouraging him to receive it as soon as possible